There are many ways and reasons underlying married couples to have sex. But according to two recent studies, when someone wanted to make love only to have her partner do not be disappointed, they feel the satisfaction of the activity, even to the relationship will be reduced.
In these studies, couples were asked to write a diary every night about whether they are making love with your husband / wife or not and what the motivations and results.
It turns out the researchers found that when participants have sex with the motivation for the purpose 'approach' (such as increasing intimacy with each other, so that the more intimate, satisfaction), then they feel a greater sex drive, as well as more satisfied with sex they do, the following relationship them.
Conversely, if participants want to have sex just because the purpose of 'avoidance' (eg to avoid conflicts, prevent quarrels, the couple did not prevent the upset), they also claim not so passionate and sex did not feel satisfaction or satisfaction with the relationship.
No less interesting, the researchers also found that the motivation of one party can influence what their partner felt during intercourse.
"If you love only to have your partner do not be disappointed, you probably would not feel comfortable with it because you do not mean it, but you are thinking at least it profitable partner," says researcher Amy Muise, Ph.D. from the University of Toronto Mississauga, Canada.
"Yet somehow the couple can feel it, and it also lowers the level of their satisfaction," he added.
So it is better not to have sex partner than why not right? According to Muise, do not need to like it. Sex, for whatever reason, are known to increase the satisfaction of two people to live their relationship even though it is only temporary. Clearly, increased satisfaction can only be obtained when the couple has a purpose 'approach' as described above.
However, this will turn into a problem if someone often make 'sex avoidance'. "One or two times is not a problem, but if we are motivated by love for evasion, then what (negative) perceived from experience it will accumulate over time," said Muise as reported Womenshealthmag, Sunday (07/14/2013 ).
